Let me say it straight:

Whether we like it or not, we are being discipled in our sexuality every single day.

Not just in what we believe, but in what we absorb—through social media, TV, music, advertising, YouTube, TikTok, dating apps, podcasts, you name it. The cultural air we breathe is shaping us.

And the message is loud:

“Follow your heart.”
“Do what feels good.”
“Your desires define you.”

So if the Church doesn’t offer a better story—a true story—then people are left to piece all of this together on their own.

Spoiler alert: it’s not going well.

Everything Broke in Genesis 3

If you want to understand why sexuality feels confusing, tender, complicated, and loaded… you don’t have to start with modern culture.

You start with Genesis.

Genesis 1–2 gives us design.
Genesis 3 explains the fracture.

“So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food… she took of its fruit and ate…” (Genesis 3:6–7)

Sin didn’t just mess with our behavior. It messed with everything—our desires, our relationships, our bodies. Nothing was untouched.

That’s why Scripture can say things like:

• “All have sinned…” (Romans 3:23)
• “The heart is deceitful…” (Jeremiah 17:9)
• What comes out of us flows from what’s going on inside us (Matthew 15:18–20)

Translation? Our hearts are real… but they aren’t reliable.

Silence Has a Cost

Here’s what I’ve seen over and over:

A lot of Christians aren’t struggling because they hate God’s truth.
They’re struggling because no one ever clearly showed it to them.

Or they grew up with:

• shame instead of shepherding
• silence instead of discipleship
• rules without relationship
• “don’t do this” without “here’s what God is inviting you into”

Silence breeds shame. Confusion grows in the dark. And people end up feeling alone.

Jesus didn’t do that.

He didn’t avoid hard conversations—He stepped into the mess and called people to life.

Sexuality Is a Discipleship Issue

Christ-centered sexuality isn’t about behavior management. It’s about discipleship.

It’s learning to trust Jesus with:

• our longings
• our identity
• our bodies
• our stories

And listen—the world is already talking loudly about sex. The Church can’t afford to stay silent.

But we also can’t just shout truth without love… or offer love without truth.

We need teaching that is:

• theologically grounded
• emotionally honest
• pastorally wise

Because confusion, shame, and silence have already done enough damage.

If God cares about our sexual wholeness—and He does—then we can’t treat this lightly.

He’s inviting us into something better.
And that invitation is worth taking seriously.

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