A lot of people hear “sexual wholeness” and think it means:

• “never struggle”
• “never feel desire”
• “have a perfect testimony”
• “get your act together”

Nope.

Sexual wholeness isn’t perfection.

It’s alignment.

Alignment with God’s design.
Alignment with covenant love.
Alignment under the lordship of Jesus.

Four Lenses That Help Us Make Sense of This

When I’m teaching on sexual wholeness, I usually use four theological frameworks because they help us see the bigger story:

1) Theology of the Body
Your body isn’t random. It’s meaningful. It’s theological. Your body tells God’s story—not just your story.

2) Theology of Marriage
Marriage is covenant. One man and one woman. A lived-out metaphor of Christ and the Church.

3) Theology of Sex
Sex is sacred. Powerful. Never “just physical.” It’s meant to express covenantal love.

4) Theology of Singleness
Singleness is not a backup plan. It’s a real calling. And it gives the Church a picture of the coming Kingdom—where our ultimate union is with Christ.

These aren’t random categories. They’re connected. They’re telling one big story.

Genesis Gives Us the Blueprint

If we’re going to talk about sexual wholeness, we have to start in Genesis 1–2.

That’s where we see:

• we’re made in the image of God
• male and female matter
• our bodies are meant for love, not use
• sex is covenantal, not casual

And when sexuality gets disconnected from covenant, people get reduced.

Porn, lust, hookup culture—whatever label you want to use—it turns image-bearers into products.

And that’s not love.

Real love gives.
Love doesn’t take.

Sexual Wholeness Is for Everyone

Sexual wholeness isn’t just about married people. It’s not just about singles. It’s not just about “those people over there.”

It’s for all of us.

Because every follower of Jesus is called to live a sexually faithful life that honors the image of God in ourselves and in others.

And here’s the bigger “why”:

Our sexuality—rightly ordered—points beyond itself.

Marriage points to Christ and the Church.
Singleness points to the coming Kingdom.
Sex points to covenantal love.
Our bodies point to God.

So sexual wholeness is about learning to live our embodied lives under the loving lordship of Jesus—trusting that His design leads to life.

Because at the end of the day, our bodies were made to tell the truth.

Not just about us.
But about Him.